Is it worth closing your heart?

June 4th, 2010 by Lena

The law of attraction is many things to many people. First and foremost it is a process for creating that which you desire in this world. And we are not speaking just of material desire, but indeed more of the desire that you have to transform and to expand in consciousness and experience. There is one thing that holds you more than anything from bringing to you that which you desire, and that is interfering with the vibration from where you created it. You interfere by offering resistance and there are so many ways in which resistance shows up for you. Let us be here to explore lowering your resistance. And let us start with asking you – is it ever worth it to resist that which you desire?

How does one know that they are in resistance to something? There are many indicators and the strongest is that you do not feel good. It may not be a physical feeling, although it may. It is more often an emotional indicator that you receive. A feeling that you have that tells you that something is wrong, something is out of place.

Some of the more common resistant emotions are: anger, resentment, fear, depression, overwhelm, grief, sadness, separation, hopelessness. Whatever you may call any of them, they all stem from fear and are different aspects of it.

To stay out of any of the fear based, resistance breeding emotions we encourage you to focus upon love. That is not to say that you see everything as perfect, even though it is. It means that you chose to look beyond what you find to be the seeming imperfections and to focus on love and keeping your heart open.

When you are able to keep your heart open is when you allow more of what you desire to flow into your life and you experience greater joy and flow.

Again now we ask you is it worth it? And the question we offer to you to ask yourself when you are in a not so good feeling place is “Is it worth closing my heart for?” Keeping your heart open is your portal to drawing in all the abundance you seek in life. What is it that you can do in the moment to open your heart even further?

A favorite of ours is to focus upon appreciation for when there is pure appreciation there is no room in your heart for resistance. What is it that you can appreciate about the topic that you are resisting? We do not advise you to try to appreciate things that are not there – to make up what it is that you want – but instead to select the aspects of the topic that you truly do appreciate.

And if you are not able in the moment to do just that, find anything to appreciate. What is more important is that you are feeling good as opposed to what it is that you are feeling good about.  You might like to focus on the beauty of something that you experienced earlier in the day or even in the previous days. Perhaps you baked your favorite cookies and you focus on what it is that you love so much about them. Or you enjoyed an excursion with or without a friend and you focus on the aspects that you really enjoyed, returning to the feeling of love and joy that you felt. Use any hook that you have to get into a better feeling place and to get there as often as possible.

There are very many more processes that you can do to get into that better feeling place and to shift your vibration. And we say shift rather than raise because many times it is far easier for you to lower your resistance than it is to raise your vibration – purely from a place of semantics and what feels easier for you to do.

What is it that you are closing your heart for? And is it worth it? Or would you rather line up with the joy and exuberance that you are as spirit and open your heart to the possibilities of joy that you often imagine, yet resist believing, are true?

The Daffodil Principle

April 10th, 2010 by Chris

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, “Mother, you must come and see the daffodils before they are over.” I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. Going and coming took most of a day – and I honestly did not have a free day until the following week.

“I will come next Tuesday,” I promised, a little reluctantly, on her third call. Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and so I drove the length of Route 91, continued on I-215, and finally turned onto Route 18 and began to drive up the mountain highway. The tops of the mountains were sheathed in clouds, and I had gone only a few miles when the road was completely covered with a wet, gray blanket of fog. I slowed to a crawl, my heart pounding. The road becomes narrow and winding toward the top of the mountain.

As I executed the hazardous turns at a snail’s pace, I was praying to reach the turnoff at Blue Jay that would signify I had arrived. When I finally walked into Carolyn’s house and hugged and greeted my grandchildren I said, “Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these darling children that I want to see bad enough to drive another inch!”

My daughter smiled calmly, “We drive in this all the time, Mother.”

“Well, you won’t get me back on the road until it clears – and then I’m heading for home!” I assured her.

“I was hoping you’d take me over to the garage to pick up my car. The mechanic just called, and they’ve finished repairing the engine,” she answered.

“How far will we have to drive?” I asked cautiously.

“Just a few blocks,”Carolyn said cheerfully.

So we buckled up the children and went out to my car. “I’ll drive,” Carolyn offered. “I’m used to this.” We got into the car, and she began driving.

In a few minutes I was aware that we were back on the Rim-of-the-World Road heading over the top of the mountain. “Where are we going?” I exclaimed, distressed to be back on the mountain road in the fog. “This isn’t the way to the garage!”

“We’re going to my garage the long way,” Carolyn smiled, “by way of the daffodils.”

“Carolyn, I said sternly, trying to sound as if I was still the mother and in charge of the situation, “please turn around. There is nothing in the world that I want to see enough to drive on this road in this weather.”

“It’s all right, Mother,” She replied with a knowing grin. “I know what I’m doing. I promise, you will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience.”

And so my sweet, darling daughter who had never given me a minute of difficulty in her whole life was suddenly in charge – and she was kidnapping me! I couldn’t believe it. Like it or not, I was on the way to see some ridiculous daffodils – driving through the thick, gray silence of the mist-wrapped mountaintop at what I thought was risk to life and limb.

I muttered all the way. After about twenty minutes we turned onto a small gravel road that branched down into an oak-filled hollow on the side of the mountain. The fog had lifted a little, but the sky was lowering, gray and heavy with clouds.

We parked in a small parking lot adjoining a little stone church. From our vantage point at the top of the mountain we could see beyond us, in the mist, the crests of the San Bernardino range like the dark, humped backs of a herd of elephants. Far below us the fog-shrouded valleys, hills, and flatlands stretched away to the desert.

On the far side of the church I saw a pine-needle-covered path, with towering evergreens and manzanita bushes and an inconspicuous, lettered sign “Daffodil Garden.”

We each took a child’s hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path as it wound through the trees. The mountain sloped away from the side of the path in irregular dips, folds, and valleys, like a deeply creased skirt.

Live oaks, mountain laurel, shrubs, and bushes clustered in the folds, and in the gray, drizzling air, the green foliage looked dark and monochromatic. I shivered. Then we turned a corner of the path, and I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight, unexpectedly and completely splendid. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it down over the mountain peak and slopes where it had run into every crevice and over every rise. Even in the mist-filled air, the mountainside was radiant, clothed in massive drifts and waterfalls of daffodils. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron, and butter yellow.

Each different-colored variety (I learned later that there were more than thirty-five varieties of daffodils in the vast display) was planted as a group so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue.

In the center of this incredible and dazzling display of gold, a great cascade of purple grape hyacinth flowed down like a waterfall of blossoms framed in its own rock-lined basin, weaving through the brilliant daffodils. A charming path wound throughout the garden. There were several resting stations, paved with stone and furnished with Victorian wooden benches and great tubs of coral and carmine tulips. As though this were not magnificent enough, Mother Nature had to add her own grace note – above the daffodils, a bevy of western bluebirds flitted and darted, flashing their brilliance. These charming little birds are the color of sapphires with breasts of magenta red. As they dance in the air, their colors are truly like jewels above the blowing, glowing daffodils. The effect was spectacular.

It did not matter that the sun was not shining. The brilliance of the daffodils was like the glow of the brightest sunlit day. Words, wonderful as they are, simply cannot describe the incredible beauty of that flower-bedecked mountain top.

Five acres of flowers! (This too I discovered later when some of my questions were answered.) “But who has done this?” I asked Carolyn. I was overflowing with gratitude that she brought me – even against my will. This was a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

“Who?” I asked again, almost speechless with wonder, “And how, and why, and when?”

“It’s just one woman,” Carolyn answered. “She lives on the property. That’s her home.” Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house that looked small and modest in the midst of all that glory.

We walked up to the house, my mind buzzing with questions. On the patio we saw a poster. “Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking” was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. “50,000 bulbs,” it read. The second answer was, “One at a time, by one woman, two hands, two feet, and very little brain.” The third answer was, “Began in 1958.”

There it was. The Daffodil Principle.

For me that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than thirty-five years before, had begun – one bulb at a time – to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountain top. One bulb at a time.

There was no other way to do it. One bulb at a time. No shortcuts – simply loving the slow process of planting. Loving the work as it unfolded.

Loving an achievement that grew so slowly and that bloomed for only three weeks of each year. Still, just planting one bulb at a time, year after year, had changed the world.

This unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of ineffable magnificence, beauty, and inspiration.

The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principle of celebration: learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time – often just one baby-step at a time – learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time.

When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.

“Carolyn,” I said that morning on the top of the mountain as we left the haven of daffodils, our minds and hearts still bathed and bemused by the splendors we had seen, “it’s as though that remarkable woman has needle-pointed the earth! Decorated it. Just think of it, she planted every single bulb for more than thirty years. One bulb at a time! And that’s the only way this garden could be created. Every individual bulb had to be planted. There was no way of short-circuiting that process. Five acres of blooms. That magnificent cascade of hyacinth! All, just one bulb at a time.”

The thought of it filled my mind. I was suddenly overwhelmed with the implications of what I had seen. “It makes me sad in a way,” I admitted to Carolyn. “What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five years ago and had worked away at it ‘one bulb at a time’ through all those years. Just think what I might have been able to achieve!”

My wise daughter put the car into gear and summed up the message of the day in her direct way. “Start tomorrow,” she said with the same knowing smile she had worn for most of the morning. Oh, profound wisdom!

It is pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson a celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, “How can I put this to use tomorrow?”

Jaroldeen Asplund Edwards

Your Pot of Gold

March 17th, 2010 by Lena

Where’s Your Pot of Gold?

Have you ever looked at a rainbow and wondered if there really was a pot of gold at the end of it? Any time St. Patrick’s Day rolls around and you see all the pictures of leprechauns and their pots of gold have you ever thought to yourself “I’d like one of those. Where can I find a pot of gold?”

Finding your pot of gold is less elusive than you might think, and yes, chasing rainbows is involved. Follow these three steps and gain access to your pot of gold in no time!

Decide What Your Pot of Gold Looks Like

The first step in finding your pot of gold is determining what your pot of gold really looks like. After all, if you don’t have a clear picture of what you’re looking for, how will you ever find it?

The pot of gold is just an expression, an idea or a representation of prosperity and success. Start with defining what success means to you. For some it may be wealth. For others though, it is what the wealth provides…the feelings, the freedom and the experiences. For others yet it is a representation of true prosperity. Define what success and prosperity mean to you and you’ll be well on your way to attracting it into your life.

Go Chase A Rainbow

I haven’t known a person that doesn’t stop and look in awe at a rainbow. The beauty and wonder of a rainbow makes us all light up, feel joy and pause to breathe in the wonderment of life.

The more we look for joy in our lives, the more we find it. And the more we allow ourselves to partake in the wonderment and beauty of life, the more we experience joy and are prompted with inspired actions to take toward our goals.

Run after the things that bring you joy, and look for the rainbows in your life and allow them to guide you in your next steps.

Follow Your Inner Leprechaun

Leprechauns are an interesting sort. The stories about them are varied and there seems to be no true consensus. And most people believe them to be mischievous, solitary wee folk who protect their pots of gold and use magic to keep you from stealing it. Why then would you want to follow your inner leprechaun? Because if you look deeper into who they are, you find that they do have some true secrets that we can all learn from.

To learn their secrets and how you can use them to find your pot of gold, you’ll have to join me at our St. Patrick’s Day Fireside Chat, Follow Your Inner Leprechaun: Secrets to Finding Your Pot of Gold.

In this free one hour discussion, you’ll learn how to chase a rainbow, discover tools to help you decide what your pot of gold looks like and unearth the secrets of the leprechauns that will ultimately lead you to experience true prosperity in all areas of your life.

For more information on how to join us at this event, click here

Playing Full Out: The Difference between Learning and Living the Law of Attraction

February 3rd, 2010 by Lena

The Law of Attraction is a straight forward lesson: you attract into your life what you focus on. Why is it then that there are so many books, movies and teachers that provide people with the lessons of the law of attraction yet so few are able to really create the life they desire?

Although the lesson that the law of attraction offers may itself be a simple one, the application of that lesson may not be so easy for the quick fix, instant gratification world that we live in. And it is in the application of the lesson that we make the shift from learning about the law of attraction to living the law of attraction.

How can we make that shift to stop learning and start living? In three little words: Play Full Out.

10 Steps to Help You Play Full Out

Playing Full Out means to step into action; to take on the role that you want to play in the game of life and really make it yours. It means choosing what you want to create and allowing yourself to be the person that attracts it in. Here are some steps you can take to step into your game of life, play more fully and start living in attraction. The first three are about getting in touch with what you want and who you are. The rest are ways that you can start playing full out.

1. Choose what it is that you want to create. You can’t create something if you don’t know what you want. Don’t know what you want? Take a look at what you don’t want and think about what would make it better.

2. Get clear about and connected to what you chose in step one. Think about all the details involved, what does it look, sound, feel, taste and smell like? Really think about it and get emotionally connected to how you will feel when you manifest it.

3. Imagine what you’ll be like when you manifest your desire. What kind of person are you now? What did you do that helped you to attract your desired outcome? What did you let go of? What did you allow in? What are the characteristics, strengths, values and talents that you now have?

4. Choose to take on one or more of the characteristics that you uncovered in step three and start being/embodying it now.  For example, is one of the characteristics that you are fearless? Then if you are faced with something that you don’t want to do ask yourself what you’re afraid of. Then ask yourself if you were fearless, how would you approach the situation and then do it! (Use caution and don’t do anything that jeopardizes your safety)

As you get comfortable with that characteristic, add another one in, and then another, and so on.

5. Take inspired actions. Listen to your heart, intuition, gut, inkling, promptings or whatever else you want to call it and take the actions that are associated…you know the ones….the actions that you just get the feeling to do.

6. Surround yourself with like minded people. Being around others that are also creating things and playing a bigger game in life will help to keep you positively focused and motivated.

7. Act as if. Don’t wait for if and when to occur – do it now on the scale that you can and most importantly get yourself into the atmosphere. Go on a luxury home tour and feel what it is like to be in a mansion. Test drive your dream car, or go talk to a sales person about it. Start being a philanthropist now and donate what you can to somewhere/someone that inspires you.

8. Be radically responsible for living by your values. Identify what your values are and choose to do things based on them, and only based on them. Take a stand for who you are and choose to do things that are a reflection of that.

9. Do something brave every day. Take actions daily that are brave for you. For a shy person it could be brave to strike up a conversation in a coffee shop. Likewise for someone that talks all the time spending time in silence can be a scary prospect. Or maybe being brave to you is having the courage to speak your mind. Do something that takes courage for you to do. You’ll grow in ways you never imagined and have a fuller life as a result.

10. Have as much fun as you can. Life should be fun and the more fun you’re having, or the more you experience joy, the higher a vibration you stay in. The higher the vibration you are in, the lower the resistance you have and the easier it is to allow your desires to come to you.

Dr. Wayne Dyer says “We do not attract hat which we desire, we attract that which we are.” What/who do you choose to be and what can you do to really step into that role and play full out?

© 2010, Lena Salonikas, www.livinginattraction.com. Lena Salonikas is a Success Coach who works with driven and authentic leaders and entrepreneurs using the law of attraction to create results that impact the world. She is the co-founder of Living in Attraction and leads a monthly discussion group that creates space for people to explore the law of attraction and invites them to go beyond just talking about and understanding the principles to really applying them and playing full out in their lives. You may reprint and distribute this article in its entirety provided that all contact information, attribution and links are kept intact. If you use this article, please send an e-mail to contact@livinginattraction.com stating when and where it will be posted.

The Greatest Gift

December 9th, 2009 by Lena

When you think of giving, what do you think of? Who do you think of giving to? And, do you focus more on giving to give or giving to get? The greatest gift you can ever give, is certainly one that you give to give, comes directly from the heart, and the recipient…well, the recipient of the greatest gift of all may surprise you.

The greatest gift you can ever give is a gift that you give to yourself. You are probably the most ignored person on your gift list at any time of year, and yet giving this particular gift to yourself is something that you can give to yourself daily.

What is that gift? It’s the gift of LOVE.

Love is the greatest gift you can ever give. Self love is the greatest form of this gift that you can give to yourself and everyone that crosses your path.

Why is loving yourself a gift?

Loving yourself is a gift to yourself because it gives you the confidence, nurture, acceptance and power to manifest anything you desire in the world. When there is love, there is no room for fear. When you fully love and trust yourself, there is no fear in moving forward in anything that you do and every expression of yourself comes from the heart – from a place of full connection.

How does your own self love become a gift for others?

When you fully love yourself, you are a full expression of joy, peace and being in everything that you do. You are the fullest and best expression of yourself. When you are the fullest and best expression of yourself, the way you interact with others shifts and your relationships, in all areas of your life, blossom.

When you give yourself the gift of love, you are also ready to receive anything someone else offers. If they offer you a positive experience, you are able to cherish it and fully receive it, knowing you are worthy and deserving. If they offer you a contrasting experience, you are surrounded in enough love to recognize it as just that: contrast. And you are able to respond according as opposed to react to the contrast.

When you love yourself, you project that love outward and without realizing it, touch the lives of everyone you encounter.

What does this gift of self love cost?

Loving yourself doesn’t cost anything monetarily. It will cost you the price of giving up fear, doubt, worry, undeservingness, unworthiness, judgment, beating yourself up and a whole slew of other fear based emotions.

Are you willing to pay the price? Are you willing to give up these things and love yourself fully? And, are you ready to let love light you up from within, beaming outward into your world, touching your life and the life of others. And if not now, when will you be ready to give yourself this greatest gift of all?

Need a place to start?

Make a list of all the things that you love about yourself and keep it in an easy to access place. Start each day with reviewing the list. And if you’re feeling any of those fear based emotions, go back and read over the list and think about each reason you love yourself before you move onto the next one. In no time, you’ll be out of those fear based emotions and inching your way up the scale of feeling good.

Give yourself the gift of love today and every day and watch how it changes your world.

© 2009, Lena Salonikas. www.livinginattraction.com. You may reprint and distribute this article in its entirety provided that all contact information, attribution and links are kept intact. If you use this article, please send an e-mail to contact@livinginattraction.com stating when and where it will be posted.

Giving to Give for the Holidays

December 3rd, 2009 by Lena

As we break into the holiday season, everyone starts to focus on gift giving or the lack there of. The question is though, do you give to give or do you give to get? In this first article of a four part series learn the difference between the two and how you can start to focus more on giving to give this season.

I heard an interesting thing said yesterday on a channeled call I was listening to. Someone asked how to explain Santa to his 5 year old daughter when he knew the truth but didn’t want to distort the image that has been created by the stories we all tell. The entity speaking said that the story of Santa started as a story about giving has been perverted into a story about receiving. The caller was advised to focus on the story of giving wrapped into Santa Claus.

There was more involved in the whole discussion, but that was the gist of it. And I’d like to use that as an example of giving to give vs. giving to get.

Imagine walking through a store and you see something that reminds you of someone. You just have to pick it up and get it to them because there is simply the inspiration to do so. It’s an expression of your thoughts, joy and appreciation for who they are in your life – even if that ‘who they are’ is simply a being of light with no relation to you at all.

Congratulations you’ve just given to give!

In a nutshell, giving to give is giving because you want to, because it is an expression of joy for you to do so. When you give to give, you expect nothing in return.  It is simply enough to know that you have shared your love and joy with another – in what ever form that has taken.

No imagine a different scenario: its holiday season and you’re making a list and checking it twice. As you make your list you write down gift ideas for people and think things like “on no – that’s too much to spend on them” or “we’ll they didn’t get me that great of a gift last year” or “I have to get them a gift otherwise they’ll think that I’m (fill in the blank)”

You got it – those are all things that indicate you’re giving to get: the purpose of giving a gift is to fulfill some sort of obligation or to get a reaction or because you hope that the gift will actually serve you in some way (even if that way happens to be by being in someone’s favor – it’s still serving YOU).

Start the tradition of giving to give this holiday season and make it a part of your daily life for every day of the year thereafter. Here’s how you can start just with your gift giving:

This year, as you start – or complete – your holiday shopping, do so with thought in mind: “What do I think of when (Jane, Sally, Joe – insert name here) crosses my mind? What makes me smile and lights me up when I think of them?”

Once you get an idea of what that joyful feeling is that you get from experiencing life with that person – write down that feeling and go shopping looking for something that expresses that same feeling, and give the gift of sharing that with them.

Maybe you have someone that you feel you ‘have’ to get a gift for that you can’t identify with joy. Think of something that you appreciate about that person and get them something that reflects that. Come on – I know you can come up with something.

The biggest bonus of giving to give is that because you’re just sharing the love in your heart, you actually raise your vibration and feel better. Ok – so you get something out of it – but it wasn’t intentional…it was just a gift that came your way.

In the next article of the series I’ll be giving you some ideas on how you can give to give any day of the year.

© 2009, Lena Salonikas. www.livinginattraction.com. You may reprint and distribute this article in its entirety provided that all contact information, attribution and links are kept intact. If you use this article, please send an e-mail to contact@livinginattraction.com stating when and where it will be posted.

What’s Your Costume?

October 29th, 2009 by Lena

One time a year, millions of people choose a costume to wear for Halloween. For some, months of thought and planning go into it. For others it’s a spur of the moment decision. It’s fun and there is a generally a party involved. After the party is over, we strip away the costume to go back to life as we know it. Without realizing it though, each day we reveal a mask and don a costume. The question is which costume do you choose today?

Like with Halloween, some people plan for months, even years, about what costume they slip into every day. And for others, it’s a spur of the moment choice. Which category do you fall into and what drives your choice?

Do you wear the same costume day in, day out?

Are you the type that plans the particulars of your daily costume? You might be this type of person if you:

* Stay within the role that you play without going outside of your comfort zone

* Are known to be a specific way

* Are predictable

None of these things are good or bad, they just are, and can be very telling of the things that you are manifesting in your life.

For example, if you’re not willing to go outside your comfort zone and stretch and grow, you may notice that you’re not manifesting much of what you desire.

On the other hand, you could be known to be a specific way. That specific way you are being IS the vibrational match to what you have in your life…seemingly good or seemingly bad.

Are you the type that chooses a different costume daily? You might be this type of person if you:

* Aren’t really sure of who you are and are testing the waters

* Decide to be an expanded version of yourself daily and are thus tweaking your costume daily to accommodate the shifts

* Just like having fun seeing what comes up that day

Again, none of these are good or bad, they are just ways of being.

For today, I invite you to take a look at the mask that you are wearing and the costumes that you have hanging in your closet and ask yourself these questions:

Is the mask I’m wearing there so that I can hide behind something? If so, choose to put away that mask and let your true spirit shine through.

Am I confident in who I am and with letting others see that person? Yes? FABULOUS! Keep doing more of the same and stand in your power.

Does my costume collection need an upgrade? Choose to let go of the costumes, and the attached beliefs, that no longer fit or serve you. Replace them with attractive new costumes that empower you and are a reflection of who you want to be.

I think a healthy mix of standard costumes and daily costume changes is good. Choose for your standard costumes to be a reflection of the person you want to be, the beliefs that empower you and the ways of being that create that vibrational match between who you are and that which you desire.

Then daily, allow yourself to be in the flow to tweak your costume and choose a new, expanded representation of who you are. Add the elements of joy and fun and allow the passion and excitement of who are to light you up inside.

What costume will you choose today? Oh, and if you’ve already put on one, remember, you can go do a costume change at any time. Actors do it all the time. Why can’t you? After all, this is your life…have fun with it!

© 2009, Lena Salonikas. www.livinginattraction.com. You may reprint and distribute this article in its entirety provided that all contact information, attribution and links are kept intact. If you use this article, please send an e-mail to contact@livinginattraction.com stating when and where it will be posted.

Happy Is As Happy Does

July 7th, 2009 by Lena

What does it take to truly be happy? What does being happy mean? How do we know when we are there? Is happiness truly sustainable? And how can I be happy if I don’t have what I want? Let me start by saying that happiness IS attainable, sustainable and trainable. That’s right…you CAN train yourself to be happy! So where do you start?

 

First and foremost CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY. That’s right, happiness is a choice, and we have free will so why not choose happiness? If faced with being sad or happy, which would you rather be? Choose it…or even better…claim it!…and make a commitment to yourself to be happy no matter what.

 

DECIDE WHAT BEING HAPPY MEANS FOR YOU AND HOW TO RECOGNIZE IT. Knowing what happiness is for you makes it easier for you to recognize it when you are experiencing it? Is happiness laughter, peace, harmony? How do you define it? Now, how do you see it show up in your life? Is it a warm fuzzy feeling? Is it a giggle that just bubbles up? Do you feel like you’re floating, or a bounce in your step? Pay attention to how you are being when you are happy – and here’s a little tip, if you’re not happy take one of those actions. Really, even if you’re not feeling it, let out a little giggle. You’d be surprised at how that will quickly shift your feelings and soon the giggle will turn into a full blown laugh fest!

 

PLANT YOUR FOCUS ON SOMETHING HAPPY. Don’t have what you want? Too focused on “reality”? Think you have to “have” something or waiting to achieve something in order to be happy? It will take you an awful long time to get happy that way. When you are already happy is when you are really in a mode of creating all those things that you want.  So how can you shift your focus? Try these two things: 1. Focus on your better feeling story…or what it is that you want…and really feel the joy of being there in that moment experiencing it. 2. Focus on the what is – just make sure it is the positive what is…look for the positive things about the current situation and focus on them.

 

SUSTAINABLE HAPPINESS IS NOTHING MORE THAN MAKING HAPPINESS A HABIT. Yes you can train yourself to be happy. Start with small steps and adding in daily practices like expressing gratitude or appreciation, laughing every day and looking for the positive in what you see. As you practice these and other tools, happiness will become more of a habit and less of something that eludes you.

 

Have you made a commitment to your happiness yet? Congratulations to those that have! To those that haven’t, what’s stopping you?! And to all…what can you do to be happy now? The huge smile on my face and the feeling of love flowing through me tells me that I’m already there…just waiting for you to join me.

 

© 2009, Lena Salonikas. www.livinginattraction.com. You may reprint and distribute this article in its entirety provided that all contact information, attribution and links are kept intact. If you use this article, please send an e-mail to contact@livinginattraction.com stating when and where it will be posted.

Have You Claimed Your Independence?

July 1st, 2009 by Lena

Each year as we come to celebrate Independence Day in the U.S., I reflect on the famous words of the Declaration of Independence: “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” I think about what independence means to me and wonder how many of us, given those rights, are truly independent.

 

I really take the pursuit of happiness to heart, and as such, declared my own independence day on February 23, 2003. That was the day that as I was attending a Clearing to Create seminar with my beloved teacher and mentor, Bijan, that I declared independence from life as I knew it and the beliefs that were holding me back. From that moment forward I was choosing the pursuit of happiness as my path.

 

Since that day, my pursuit has become less of a pursuit and more of a way of life. I choose to spend as much time as I can in love and happiness. Some days that means I’m there 98% of the time, others it means that I’m there 55% of the time and still others 20%. And then there are the individual moments that I’m flying high at 100% connected to love and joy! And I make sure not to beat myself up about those 20% days – instead I celebrate that the majority of the time I’ve got a 55% day or better that I’m living. For the majority, I’m choosing independence over thoughts of struggle and limitation and instead focus on joy, love and abundance…my right to happiness.

 

I invite you to claim your independence today from limiting beliefs and think about what those words from the Declaration of Independence mean to you, and in relation to the universal laws that we choose to live by. Here are some of my thoughts on the relationship between the two:

 

All Men Are Created Equal: We are all worthy and we are all abundant and prosperous in the universe. Not one of us is any more or less than the other. Do not believe for one minute that you are any less than another or that you are better than others still. Instead, embrace the fact that we all have the wonderful freedom of choice and are all responsible for our own creations in life.

 

We Are Endowed by Our Creator with Certain Unalienable Rights:

Life: What a joy life is. I encourage you to wake each morning recognizing the beauty that we have unfolding before us and know that you chose to come into this existence for the joy and expansion that it offers. Cease every opportunity to live this amazing life that you have created to the fullest!

 

Liberty: A quick search on the definition of Liberty brought this to me: “Thomas Jefferson Defined it in the “Declaration of The Rights of Man and The Citizen” as: “Liberty consists in the freedom to do everything which injures no one else; hence the exercise of the natural rights of each man has no limits except those which assure to the other members of the society the enjoyment of the same rights. These limits can only be determined by law.”

 

I look at this as feeding right into the law of allowing. Of course we do have the laws of our physical world to abide by. However, recognize that each of us is doing what we think is in the best interest of ourselves and our happiness. Every action each of us takes is rooted in a positive intent. Understanding this allows you to view others with far more compassion in their pursuit of happiness.

 

The Pursuit of Happiness: Happiness defined by me may be different than how you define happiness. Allow yourself and others to pursue your/their definition of happiness. In your pursuit, I encourage you start by simply reaching for the next better feeling. And if you don’t know what would feel better right now, simply state “I want to feel better right now” and see what shifts within you.

 

What are you prepared to claim independence from today? Where will your pursuit of happiness take you? Go ahead, claim independence right now and enjoy the unfolding along your path and pursuit of happiness. I’ll be here to celebrate with you every step of the way.

 

© 2009, Lena Salonikas. www.livinginattraction.com. You may reprint and distribute this article in its entirety provided that all contact information, attribution and links are kept intact. If you use this article, please send an e-mail to contact@livinginattraction.com stating when and where it will be posted.

What to Do When Your World Falls Apart

June 15th, 2009 by Lena

I think the biggest fear for anyone embarking on using the law of attraction and other universal laws is “what if it doesn’t work?” “What if I really invest myself in this and work with it, and things go nowhere, or even worse, it all goes wrong and my world falls apart?”

 

I know that I was concerned in the beginning about it working. I looked for evidence all the time that it was working in my life. As more evidence surfaced, I applied myself even more. I focused on the positive aspects, have a book of better feeling stories, visualize daily and joyously take inspired actions.

 

Everything was going great and I was allowing in ways I never knew I could. I never worried about things falling apart though…and then one day…they did. Suddenly something huge that I was manifesting ended and all my hopes and dreams attached to it were shattered like a window that had a brick…no…a wrecking ball crashing through it at warp speed.

 

In an unexpected instant, my dreams were shards of broken glass piled around my feet and there was one that went straight through my heart. Yes, my world certainly fell apart…or so I thought.

 

I spent a few days crying and unable to focus on doing anything with the projects that were in front of me. I didn’t want to talk to anyone and I moped around the house like I hadn’t in a really long time. If this had happened early on in my taking on the law of attraction as a way of life, I might have thrown in the towel. Oh wait…come to think of it..it did happen in the beginning too. Really, I just remembered that!

 

I didn’t throw in the towel then either. I WAS devastated for months that first time. I wasn’t sure that I believed in all this law of attraction stuff that first time. And I stopped practicing my daily habits for a while that first time…for nearly six months! Something kept me going though and slowly I started to get back into the swing of things.

 

This time was different though, a couple of days and full speed ahead. Here’s what I learned about what to do when your world falls apart and exactly why I bounced back so quickly.

 

1. No matter what, focus on at least one positive thing daily. In those couple of days when I was crying and unfocused, I still looked for what could possibly be good about it. I was able to muster a few things. However what really helped most was going to a trusted book that always gives me wisdom and insight. Most people wouldn’t get how what I read made such an impact so I won’t add the passage here – what’s important though is that I got it and that you will too from your trusted source.

 

2. Allow yourself to feel the emotion and to heal. I didn’t stop myself from crying. I felt a very deep loss in my life when things came to an end. Everything was changing and what I knew had died. That shard of glass is no longer in my heart, the wound is though, and I’ll allow myself to feel it as necessary so that I can heal it and release it completely.

 

3. Use the tools you have at hand. If the law of attraction weren’t a way of life for me, I might not have been able to see what was really going on. Reviewing my better feeling story, taking time to visualize, looking at the positive aspects, these are all key practices that work for me. So is following inspired action. My determination in using these tools is what helped me see the situation for what it is. As a matter of fact, I even saw that is was an inspired action that brought it all about! And trust me, I didn’t recognize it as inspired action in the moment.

 

4. Recognize that sometimes you have to let go to let it in. What seemed at one point as my world falling apart really was just a shift in my vibration: a shift in my ability to allow.  This I think is by far the most important of the things that I learned. And it was the other things I learned that shed light upon it for me. By reviewing my better feeling story, visualizing my outcome and focusing on the positive aspects I recognized that I am still manifesting that huge thing. The only thing that changed is the players in the game. And it was that confusing, sudden inspired action that made it happen. I believe that inspired action allowed me to let go of something that will allow the universe to deliver my manifestation to me as it sees best.

 

5. Trust that the universe sees the how much better than you ever can. Continuing on #4 above, although it looks like my world fell apart, what I realized was that I attached some “hows” to my better feeling story. Why it fell apart is not because the things I’m manifesting aren’t going to happen. It fell apart because I thought a certain role had to be played by a specific person and I was too attached to it. I see that universe is saying “Trust me; I’ve got something better in store for you…and that order you placed…coming right up. The quicker you get out of your way, the sooner it will be here.”

 

Your world will never fall apart either. It just might look like it temporarily. Keep focusing on your better feeling story…that thing you really want to have manifest, and you too will see that things are just shifting around to make room for what you want.

 

Knowing what you know now, and what you’ve read here…what is it time for you to let go of so that you can make room for greatness you are stepping into?

 

© 2009, Lena Salonikas. www.livinginattraction.com. You may reprint and distribute this article in its entirety provided that all contact information, attribution and links are kept intact. If you use this article, please send an e-mail to contact@livinginattraction.com stating when and where it will be posted.